FOMO.5: "Denial of Incarnation" - A Concept I Just Learnt, That Shifted EVERYTHING
Fuel of Manifestation and Ownership Letter 5: Denial of incarnation is the spiritual wound that shows up AFTER you’ve done all the inner work-when you still can’t stand being human. Yes, it's a thing.
On Monday I joined this online seminar done by these French kids.. it was on personal development and truthfully, mainly on their program that they spend 80% of the seminar selling. I got frustrated after day 2. However, I heard one story of a woman who was sharing how this program helped her - and she’s a healer/coach for people in “denial of incarnation”. I can’t explain how much that resonated with me, and I deep dove into it, Youtube, ChatGPT, IG.. all of it. Funny how those are my resources of education.. sad.
I JUST had a session with her, which… was.. very…. deep… and not so deep in the sense, but I’m not ready to share that yet. But what I am here to share is wtf Denial of Incarnation is, symptoms, and what to do if you do have it.
Let’s go:
🌪 1. What Is Denial of Incarnation?
Denial of incarnation is the subtle but powerful refusal to fully inhabit your human life - your body, your responsibilities, your emotional range, your earthly mission.
It often masquerades as high-functioning spirituality, “lightworker fatigue,” or deep existential discontent.
In simple terms:
Your soul chose Earth, but you’re still halfway in the clouds.
We’ve all heard of Embodiment yeah? So that basically is the solution. Solution to what? To Denial of Incarnation.
I knew for a while now that I needed to embody more - especially after the 6 months of Plant Medicine back in 2023.. but I had no idea it was THIS deep, for me.
🔍 2. Symptoms (aka how it actually shows up):
You may be in denial of incarnation if...
You’ve healed a lot... but life feels heavier than ever. It was such a brainfuck for me. I felt like.. suicide isn’t an option cause I KNOW i’ll have to go through all of this again, yet continuing like this isn’t an option either. Feeling stuck in this human experience.
You live in your head more than in your body
You spiritualize everything but struggle with basic 3D (making money, taxes, sleep, routine)
You still say “I don’t belong here” - and it’s on an Earthly level
You crave transcendence but feel disconnected from your own hands, hips, home
You oscillate between bursts of creative energy and weeks of collapse
You feel like you’ve “outgrown” the world, society, people but can’t build a new one
You’re constantly seeking new systems, courses, astrology downloads, healers… but none of it lands
📚 3. Yes, It’s Real. These Are the Sources:
This is not just some airy-fairy concept… I thought it was waaaay too next level woowoo. But It has names in different fields:
• Spiritual Psychology – Spiritual Bypassing
John Welwood coined the term to describe the use of spirituality to avoid uncomfortable human truths:
“We try to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we’ve made peace with it.”
• Trauma Science – Disembodiment
Bessel van der Kolk in The Body Keeps the Score:
“One of the most devastating effects of trauma is not feeling real inside.”
Translation? You float through life. You can’t land.
• Philosophy – Denial of Flesh
Maurice Merleau-Ponty: “We are not a soul in a body. We are a body.”
When we reject the body, we reject the entire foundation of experience.
• Somatic + Neuropsychology – The Unintegrated Self
Antonio Damasio: “The sense of self arises from the experience of being a body.”
and you know what .. even if all these sources are just helping me believe that I am in denial of incarnation, so be it. It is helping, and truth be told I am ready to do whatever it takes to get out of this state i’m in. It’s a deep sense of fatigue, extreme soul fatigue, and a feeling of just not wanting to be here (or anywhere else).
🕳 4. But I Did the Work. Why Does It Still Feel Like Hell?
Because awakening doesn’t mean embodiment.
You can have clarity, insight, “downloads”... and still not be rooted.
WHO THE FCK KNEW THAT.
After the healing journey comes a stage no one warns you about:
The crash that happens when your soul is awake, but your body isn’t online.
When you know what’s possible - but the 3D still feels like betrayal.
You may feel more sensitive than ever.
You see more. Feel more. Know more. But you also:
Detach more easily (because you’re tired of being disappointed)
Resist stability (because it feels like a trap)
Avoid structure (because it feels like surrendering to "the system")
Crave “home” (but don’t know where to find it)
That’s not a regression. That’s the real descent.
Your soul is saying: Land. Anchor. Live this.
This coach literally told me I just needed to go back to basics. 3D basics stuff.
but.. that 1.4k euro job in Cyprus, 6 days a week, as a MANAGER? Come on.. can I still have boundaries and do the basics?
🧘♀️ 5. So… How Do I Actually Embody?
Not with more courses. Not with another ayahuasca retreat.
Here’s how:
🌿 Soul-Level Embodiment (Welwood-style)
Stop trying to “ascend.” Begin including what you want to escape. Haha nope, still not doing that job
Meet the parts of you that hate being human with love, not judgment.
Slow down long enough to feel your actual life.
🧱 Nervous-System-Level Embodiment
Eat. Breathe. Sleep. Touch the ground.
Build one consistent ritual. Not sexy. Not spiritual. Just real.
Track your dissociation patterns (over-researching, numbing, performing)
💸 Material-Level Embodiment
Rebuild your relationship to money, time, taxes - not as burdens, but as tools of incarnation
Create one simple structure that holds your vision: a bank account, an offer, a calendar
Take one project from idea to actual completion.
Embodiment is not performance. It’s presence with form.
You didn’t fail. I didn’t fail. We didn’t fail.
You woke up, and now you’re being invited to stay awake inside the density.
I know.. it sucks balls.
You’re not here to escape the matrix.
You’re here to MASTER it - with breath, grace, and a damn good business plan.
This is where all that feminine energy content makes sense - BE more.
This is where learning how to rest becomes vital.
This is where learning how to become human becomes… a thing?
I’d love to hear if this resonated or not - let me know your thoughts in the comments or feel free to DM me to chat!
This really resonated with me. I had one heck of a mushroom experience last year and what I heard on my journey was “you’ve yet to fully accept this life. Start there.”